Pits are a hole dug out by people or form naturally. It's like a small valley that have to be walkthrough before going uphill.
I think that in any craft that we want to learn or master, there is alway this "Pits" we had to go through.
What are the "pits" that i been talking about? it about the mistake, the scolding, the losing, the discouragement, the emotion, the failure and the condemn that we face while advancing forward to our goal.
I once watch a clip in YouTube about the "pits" theory. The man told the guy who interview him that it all about what we want before going through the "pits" . which mean if you are going through the "pits" now and it not what you want, then it time to give up, because it takes time to climb out of it. it a very periodical time before the harvest.
It about when to give up and when to hold on to the last minute. "Pits" theory is all about making the right choice and stick to it and knowing what is the wrong choice that we are stuck with and get out of it.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
26th May 2009 (Change)
I've been working in the same place coming to two years. Getting used to the culture and the people there.
Even though it always the same place, things are not always the "same". There are always changes. Changes in teams, changes in the management, changes in positions.
Some people stay and some people had left(tender)
The way things are work changes because of mistake cause by others.
Changes are everywhere. It either we get change by the situation around us or we change our own situation.
This month, i had made a choice to change my own situation. To gain more exposure. I chose to switch department.
There are people who doesn't want to change and in the end they are force to change by the unforgiving situation around them.
Emotion is one of the things that stop people from changing. The stress and fear cause by change is so unbearable that people sometime prefer not to change. All proactive change are good as there are wisdom to gain in return.
It's a year of consistent change. And it is very unforgiving to the emotional part of me. It the price to pay for learning how to mature even more. No one can stay a child forever and let people made decision for them.
Even though it always the same place, things are not always the "same". There are always changes. Changes in teams, changes in the management, changes in positions.
Some people stay and some people had left(tender)
The way things are work changes because of mistake cause by others.
Changes are everywhere. It either we get change by the situation around us or we change our own situation.
This month, i had made a choice to change my own situation. To gain more exposure. I chose to switch department.
There are people who doesn't want to change and in the end they are force to change by the unforgiving situation around them.
Emotion is one of the things that stop people from changing. The stress and fear cause by change is so unbearable that people sometime prefer not to change. All proactive change are good as there are wisdom to gain in return.
It's a year of consistent change. And it is very unforgiving to the emotional part of me. It the price to pay for learning how to mature even more. No one can stay a child forever and let people made decision for them.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
30th april 2009( desire)
I want...
To ride my motorbike down the expressway under the cooling weather on a lazy afternoon.
To sit under a cafe without worries while drinking a cup of coffee.
To hold my future wife hand while strolling alone the changi beach.
Travel to the neighbouring country, and enjoy the slow paces of that country.
To laid back and don't care what other have of their opinion. ( it not that i lazy till i don't work, it just my attitude is laid back not lazy)
To enjoy the peace of God, without a worry in my heart.. and all my prayer are thanks giving..
i want to walk slowly and enjoy the privilege of being alive.
To put happy thought in my mind without a single worry in my heart.
i want...
To made it all come true..
To ride my motorbike down the expressway under the cooling weather on a lazy afternoon.
To sit under a cafe without worries while drinking a cup of coffee.
To hold my future wife hand while strolling alone the changi beach.
Travel to the neighbouring country, and enjoy the slow paces of that country.
To laid back and don't care what other have of their opinion. ( it not that i lazy till i don't work, it just my attitude is laid back not lazy)
To enjoy the peace of God, without a worry in my heart.. and all my prayer are thanks giving..
i want to walk slowly and enjoy the privilege of being alive.
To put happy thought in my mind without a single worry in my heart.
i want...
To made it all come true..
Saturday, April 25, 2009
25th april 2009 ( Grace)
There is a question people always ask "If God is so good why did bad things happen to good people"
For the start bad thing happen to bad people too.(Just read the news)
I once read this news about a woman from a poor and unhappy family married to a guy in a foreign land.The family of this guy, treated this woman like one of their own. And she got a happy family that she long for. The story got a twist, when the woman suddenly killed the guy's whole family.When the judge asked her why she did, she answered that she was jealous of the happiness of the family she was married to.The more she saw them in a bliss, the more she wanted to kill them.
Have you ever wonder the miracle of a person riding a bike? It at a speed that is so dangerous,and the rider is not cover by anything. Yet most people actually ride on this thing for more than 50 years. During my experience of riding , i have seen rider riding at a speed that can made mistake easily as they are over taking lane dangerously. And some driver will tailgate the rider and overtake them in a distance that one mistake can prove fatal.
God grace is over the woman in a foreign land, God is watching over the woman and the man's family. God is watching over this one woman over billions of people and bring her out of poverty. And yet this woman chose to end her blessing. And i know God did not chose this for the family. it the woman who chose this path.
God's grace is over the rider, when they are riding from one place to another. It the rider that chose the dangerous path of cutting lane.
For the start bad thing happen to bad people too.(Just read the news)
I once read this news about a woman from a poor and unhappy family married to a guy in a foreign land.The family of this guy, treated this woman like one of their own. And she got a happy family that she long for. The story got a twist, when the woman suddenly killed the guy's whole family.When the judge asked her why she did, she answered that she was jealous of the happiness of the family she was married to.The more she saw them in a bliss, the more she wanted to kill them.
Have you ever wonder the miracle of a person riding a bike? It at a speed that is so dangerous,and the rider is not cover by anything. Yet most people actually ride on this thing for more than 50 years. During my experience of riding , i have seen rider riding at a speed that can made mistake easily as they are over taking lane dangerously. And some driver will tailgate the rider and overtake them in a distance that one mistake can prove fatal.
God grace is over the woman in a foreign land, God is watching over the woman and the man's family. God is watching over this one woman over billions of people and bring her out of poverty. And yet this woman chose to end her blessing. And i know God did not chose this for the family. it the woman who chose this path.
God's grace is over the rider, when they are riding from one place to another. It the rider that chose the dangerous path of cutting lane.
25th april 2009 (Bliss)
In a rural area, There were two farmer.They are father and son related.
The father works hard on the field and the son stay indoor to study hard.
One day, the son asked his father "Pa, it's so hot in here, got any solution to lower the temperature?"
And his father replied "Go out in the sun for about half and hour then come back in the house, you will feel much cooler".
It pretty lame story but very logical. When we lose the thing we take for granted, we will feel bless if we have the things as they use to be.
Things such as health, food, money and friend. Everybody has a down time, during those time we feel like having those thing that we take for granted.
It is a theory that everybody knows even me. I can be even be mocked at for saying such a simple theory.
However, when emotion went high, who will actually stick to this theory?
There was this rich girl i used to know(she live in a three storeys detached house), she commented her friend about her habit of complaining about every little things, and she acted like a noble and well-learned girl saying that her friend should not takes thing for granted as she herself is not like that.
The interesting part was that, when she got scolded by her father, the "noble and well-learned girl" left the house and live with her guy friend for a week.
"Never say never, never say ever"
The father works hard on the field and the son stay indoor to study hard.
One day, the son asked his father "Pa, it's so hot in here, got any solution to lower the temperature?"
And his father replied "Go out in the sun for about half and hour then come back in the house, you will feel much cooler".
It pretty lame story but very logical. When we lose the thing we take for granted, we will feel bless if we have the things as they use to be.
Things such as health, food, money and friend. Everybody has a down time, during those time we feel like having those thing that we take for granted.
It is a theory that everybody knows even me. I can be even be mocked at for saying such a simple theory.
However, when emotion went high, who will actually stick to this theory?
There was this rich girl i used to know(she live in a three storeys detached house), she commented her friend about her habit of complaining about every little things, and she acted like a noble and well-learned girl saying that her friend should not takes thing for granted as she herself is not like that.
The interesting part was that, when she got scolded by her father, the "noble and well-learned girl" left the house and live with her guy friend for a week.
"Never say never, never say ever"
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
23th april 2009 ( 1/2 journal - rejections) part 1.
The road to learning is tough and painful. The reward that reap out of it, is worth it.
When i was in my national service time, i was quite naive in thinking that hardwork will somehow work out for me in the world outside. However that is not true, it is how smart you work and what kind of work you are working in. Getting to know that comes from all the trail and error in picking up all kinds of jobs along my ways.
What kind of trail and error? It more of error in my thinking than my ways
I used to think that by working a low paid job (700 - 1200 per month) will be enough for me, as i will save up a lot to cover back and in the long run, success in life with my saving. To be flank, that kind of thinking is wrong, wrong and damn WRONG. (i will slap my old self in the head if i am standing in front of him) . The reason for this is because expense will get high as time comes.Unexpected happening will occur. i need to add all these up and find a salary that can need all this things that comes my ways.
After knowing this, i was half way to the right path. (Noted, i was "half way to the right path") I began searching for means that can need that requirement. I began to take up degree course(despite i don't have that much cash to meet pay the whole thing), with the rationalise of getting ahead in a job with the highest paid so i don't have to suffer so much. I took up a part time job, thinking it will pay for my studies. so i WAS very sure i am "smart" and going on with my plan.
I was very wrong.(see another bang on the wall) my plan was good, but i didn't plan for the worst outcome. In every plan, there must be a worst case scenario in it. Mine didn't have it.
The good about my plan was that, i able to work as a psychologist with a very high paid
( good vs bad ratio 1:0)
the bad thing which i avoid thinking or avoid finding the solution for it and just drive in was :
1)In what degree or percentage was the Cerf recognise? ( good vs bad ratio 1:1)
2)Was my money management logical? in term of saving, expense and paying for my school fee?
(good vs bad ratio 1:2)
3)how deep is my research on this line on psychologist and the school that i taken up?( good vs ratio 1:4)
4)is my job link with my study or was the salary able to support the fee?(good vs bad ratio 1:5)
to be continue...
When i was in my national service time, i was quite naive in thinking that hardwork will somehow work out for me in the world outside. However that is not true, it is how smart you work and what kind of work you are working in. Getting to know that comes from all the trail and error in picking up all kinds of jobs along my ways.
What kind of trail and error? It more of error in my thinking than my ways
I used to think that by working a low paid job (700 - 1200 per month) will be enough for me, as i will save up a lot to cover back and in the long run, success in life with my saving. To be flank, that kind of thinking is wrong, wrong and damn WRONG. (i will slap my old self in the head if i am standing in front of him) . The reason for this is because expense will get high as time comes.Unexpected happening will occur. i need to add all these up and find a salary that can need all this things that comes my ways.
After knowing this, i was half way to the right path. (Noted, i was "half way to the right path") I began searching for means that can need that requirement. I began to take up degree course(despite i don't have that much cash to meet pay the whole thing), with the rationalise of getting ahead in a job with the highest paid so i don't have to suffer so much. I took up a part time job, thinking it will pay for my studies. so i WAS very sure i am "smart" and going on with my plan.
I was very wrong.(see another bang on the wall) my plan was good, but i didn't plan for the worst outcome. In every plan, there must be a worst case scenario in it. Mine didn't have it.
The good about my plan was that, i able to work as a psychologist with a very high paid
( good vs bad ratio 1:0)
the bad thing which i avoid thinking or avoid finding the solution for it and just drive in was :
1)In what degree or percentage was the Cerf recognise? ( good vs bad ratio 1:1)
2)Was my money management logical? in term of saving, expense and paying for my school fee?
(good vs bad ratio 1:2)
3)how deep is my research on this line on psychologist and the school that i taken up?( good vs ratio 1:4)
4)is my job link with my study or was the salary able to support the fee?(good vs bad ratio 1:5)
to be continue...
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
15th april 2009( clouded)
I've once read a quote saying "believe in yourself, you know more than you think you know"
I was confuse by this quote. The reason being, we as human being need to learn from outside source such as our mistakes, books, school, people around us.
What is the rationalise behind "you know more than you think you know"?
After having a bad month of being piss off by a series of situation, i began to get in touch with my emotional side. When I'm relax and clear minded, things looks very easy. However, when i in a situation when fear and anger consume me, things no longer looks as easy as it is, even though it is just a simple task.
Sometime when we are right, people tend to talk us down by using our emotion. Making us feel that we are wrong, but in fact we are more than right.
Emotion clouded us of our judgement, letting us do things that we aren't suppose to do.
A clouded mind makes a wrong judgement right, and a right judgement wrong.
During my off day when i got time to read the strait times. I came across an article on yoga. It written that once a mind is disrupted the person will have very short series of breath. Once a person mind is clear, focus and relax. The person will have a longer breath.
I began to observe this when i was getting stress up and anxious at work, my breath did indeed get short. Then i began to lengthen my breath, and the result is where i began to slow down my speed of handling thing, and somehow thing are much clearer.
Indeed, we must train to believe in our self. As we know much more than what we really know.
I was confuse by this quote. The reason being, we as human being need to learn from outside source such as our mistakes, books, school, people around us.
What is the rationalise behind "you know more than you think you know"?
After having a bad month of being piss off by a series of situation, i began to get in touch with my emotional side. When I'm relax and clear minded, things looks very easy. However, when i in a situation when fear and anger consume me, things no longer looks as easy as it is, even though it is just a simple task.
Sometime when we are right, people tend to talk us down by using our emotion. Making us feel that we are wrong, but in fact we are more than right.
Emotion clouded us of our judgement, letting us do things that we aren't suppose to do.
A clouded mind makes a wrong judgement right, and a right judgement wrong.
During my off day when i got time to read the strait times. I came across an article on yoga. It written that once a mind is disrupted the person will have very short series of breath. Once a person mind is clear, focus and relax. The person will have a longer breath.
I began to observe this when i was getting stress up and anxious at work, my breath did indeed get short. Then i began to lengthen my breath, and the result is where i began to slow down my speed of handling thing, and somehow thing are much clearer.
Indeed, we must train to believe in our self. As we know much more than what we really know.
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