Pits are a hole dug out by people or form naturally. It's like a small valley that have to be walkthrough before going uphill.
I think that in any craft that we want to learn or master, there is alway this "Pits" we had to go through.
What are the "pits" that i been talking about? it about the mistake, the scolding, the losing, the discouragement, the emotion, the failure and the condemn that we face while advancing forward to our goal.
I once watch a clip in YouTube about the "pits" theory. The man told the guy who interview him that it all about what we want before going through the "pits" . which mean if you are going through the "pits" now and it not what you want, then it time to give up, because it takes time to climb out of it. it a very periodical time before the harvest.
It about when to give up and when to hold on to the last minute. "Pits" theory is all about making the right choice and stick to it and knowing what is the wrong choice that we are stuck with and get out of it.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
26th May 2009 (Change)
I've been working in the same place coming to two years. Getting used to the culture and the people there.
Even though it always the same place, things are not always the "same". There are always changes. Changes in teams, changes in the management, changes in positions.
Some people stay and some people had left(tender)
The way things are work changes because of mistake cause by others.
Changes are everywhere. It either we get change by the situation around us or we change our own situation.
This month, i had made a choice to change my own situation. To gain more exposure. I chose to switch department.
There are people who doesn't want to change and in the end they are force to change by the unforgiving situation around them.
Emotion is one of the things that stop people from changing. The stress and fear cause by change is so unbearable that people sometime prefer not to change. All proactive change are good as there are wisdom to gain in return.
It's a year of consistent change. And it is very unforgiving to the emotional part of me. It the price to pay for learning how to mature even more. No one can stay a child forever and let people made decision for them.
Even though it always the same place, things are not always the "same". There are always changes. Changes in teams, changes in the management, changes in positions.
Some people stay and some people had left(tender)
The way things are work changes because of mistake cause by others.
Changes are everywhere. It either we get change by the situation around us or we change our own situation.
This month, i had made a choice to change my own situation. To gain more exposure. I chose to switch department.
There are people who doesn't want to change and in the end they are force to change by the unforgiving situation around them.
Emotion is one of the things that stop people from changing. The stress and fear cause by change is so unbearable that people sometime prefer not to change. All proactive change are good as there are wisdom to gain in return.
It's a year of consistent change. And it is very unforgiving to the emotional part of me. It the price to pay for learning how to mature even more. No one can stay a child forever and let people made decision for them.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
30th april 2009( desire)
I want...
To ride my motorbike down the expressway under the cooling weather on a lazy afternoon.
To sit under a cafe without worries while drinking a cup of coffee.
To hold my future wife hand while strolling alone the changi beach.
Travel to the neighbouring country, and enjoy the slow paces of that country.
To laid back and don't care what other have of their opinion. ( it not that i lazy till i don't work, it just my attitude is laid back not lazy)
To enjoy the peace of God, without a worry in my heart.. and all my prayer are thanks giving..
i want to walk slowly and enjoy the privilege of being alive.
To put happy thought in my mind without a single worry in my heart.
i want...
To made it all come true..
To ride my motorbike down the expressway under the cooling weather on a lazy afternoon.
To sit under a cafe without worries while drinking a cup of coffee.
To hold my future wife hand while strolling alone the changi beach.
Travel to the neighbouring country, and enjoy the slow paces of that country.
To laid back and don't care what other have of their opinion. ( it not that i lazy till i don't work, it just my attitude is laid back not lazy)
To enjoy the peace of God, without a worry in my heart.. and all my prayer are thanks giving..
i want to walk slowly and enjoy the privilege of being alive.
To put happy thought in my mind without a single worry in my heart.
i want...
To made it all come true..
Saturday, April 25, 2009
25th april 2009 ( Grace)
There is a question people always ask "If God is so good why did bad things happen to good people"
For the start bad thing happen to bad people too.(Just read the news)
I once read this news about a woman from a poor and unhappy family married to a guy in a foreign land.The family of this guy, treated this woman like one of their own. And she got a happy family that she long for. The story got a twist, when the woman suddenly killed the guy's whole family.When the judge asked her why she did, she answered that she was jealous of the happiness of the family she was married to.The more she saw them in a bliss, the more she wanted to kill them.
Have you ever wonder the miracle of a person riding a bike? It at a speed that is so dangerous,and the rider is not cover by anything. Yet most people actually ride on this thing for more than 50 years. During my experience of riding , i have seen rider riding at a speed that can made mistake easily as they are over taking lane dangerously. And some driver will tailgate the rider and overtake them in a distance that one mistake can prove fatal.
God grace is over the woman in a foreign land, God is watching over the woman and the man's family. God is watching over this one woman over billions of people and bring her out of poverty. And yet this woman chose to end her blessing. And i know God did not chose this for the family. it the woman who chose this path.
God's grace is over the rider, when they are riding from one place to another. It the rider that chose the dangerous path of cutting lane.
For the start bad thing happen to bad people too.(Just read the news)
I once read this news about a woman from a poor and unhappy family married to a guy in a foreign land.The family of this guy, treated this woman like one of their own. And she got a happy family that she long for. The story got a twist, when the woman suddenly killed the guy's whole family.When the judge asked her why she did, she answered that she was jealous of the happiness of the family she was married to.The more she saw them in a bliss, the more she wanted to kill them.
Have you ever wonder the miracle of a person riding a bike? It at a speed that is so dangerous,and the rider is not cover by anything. Yet most people actually ride on this thing for more than 50 years. During my experience of riding , i have seen rider riding at a speed that can made mistake easily as they are over taking lane dangerously. And some driver will tailgate the rider and overtake them in a distance that one mistake can prove fatal.
God grace is over the woman in a foreign land, God is watching over the woman and the man's family. God is watching over this one woman over billions of people and bring her out of poverty. And yet this woman chose to end her blessing. And i know God did not chose this for the family. it the woman who chose this path.
God's grace is over the rider, when they are riding from one place to another. It the rider that chose the dangerous path of cutting lane.
25th april 2009 (Bliss)
In a rural area, There were two farmer.They are father and son related.
The father works hard on the field and the son stay indoor to study hard.
One day, the son asked his father "Pa, it's so hot in here, got any solution to lower the temperature?"
And his father replied "Go out in the sun for about half and hour then come back in the house, you will feel much cooler".
It pretty lame story but very logical. When we lose the thing we take for granted, we will feel bless if we have the things as they use to be.
Things such as health, food, money and friend. Everybody has a down time, during those time we feel like having those thing that we take for granted.
It is a theory that everybody knows even me. I can be even be mocked at for saying such a simple theory.
However, when emotion went high, who will actually stick to this theory?
There was this rich girl i used to know(she live in a three storeys detached house), she commented her friend about her habit of complaining about every little things, and she acted like a noble and well-learned girl saying that her friend should not takes thing for granted as she herself is not like that.
The interesting part was that, when she got scolded by her father, the "noble and well-learned girl" left the house and live with her guy friend for a week.
"Never say never, never say ever"
The father works hard on the field and the son stay indoor to study hard.
One day, the son asked his father "Pa, it's so hot in here, got any solution to lower the temperature?"
And his father replied "Go out in the sun for about half and hour then come back in the house, you will feel much cooler".
It pretty lame story but very logical. When we lose the thing we take for granted, we will feel bless if we have the things as they use to be.
Things such as health, food, money and friend. Everybody has a down time, during those time we feel like having those thing that we take for granted.
It is a theory that everybody knows even me. I can be even be mocked at for saying such a simple theory.
However, when emotion went high, who will actually stick to this theory?
There was this rich girl i used to know(she live in a three storeys detached house), she commented her friend about her habit of complaining about every little things, and she acted like a noble and well-learned girl saying that her friend should not takes thing for granted as she herself is not like that.
The interesting part was that, when she got scolded by her father, the "noble and well-learned girl" left the house and live with her guy friend for a week.
"Never say never, never say ever"
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
23th april 2009 ( 1/2 journal - rejections) part 1.
The road to learning is tough and painful. The reward that reap out of it, is worth it.
When i was in my national service time, i was quite naive in thinking that hardwork will somehow work out for me in the world outside. However that is not true, it is how smart you work and what kind of work you are working in. Getting to know that comes from all the trail and error in picking up all kinds of jobs along my ways.
What kind of trail and error? It more of error in my thinking than my ways
I used to think that by working a low paid job (700 - 1200 per month) will be enough for me, as i will save up a lot to cover back and in the long run, success in life with my saving. To be flank, that kind of thinking is wrong, wrong and damn WRONG. (i will slap my old self in the head if i am standing in front of him) . The reason for this is because expense will get high as time comes.Unexpected happening will occur. i need to add all these up and find a salary that can need all this things that comes my ways.
After knowing this, i was half way to the right path. (Noted, i was "half way to the right path") I began searching for means that can need that requirement. I began to take up degree course(despite i don't have that much cash to meet pay the whole thing), with the rationalise of getting ahead in a job with the highest paid so i don't have to suffer so much. I took up a part time job, thinking it will pay for my studies. so i WAS very sure i am "smart" and going on with my plan.
I was very wrong.(see another bang on the wall) my plan was good, but i didn't plan for the worst outcome. In every plan, there must be a worst case scenario in it. Mine didn't have it.
The good about my plan was that, i able to work as a psychologist with a very high paid
( good vs bad ratio 1:0)
the bad thing which i avoid thinking or avoid finding the solution for it and just drive in was :
1)In what degree or percentage was the Cerf recognise? ( good vs bad ratio 1:1)
2)Was my money management logical? in term of saving, expense and paying for my school fee?
(good vs bad ratio 1:2)
3)how deep is my research on this line on psychologist and the school that i taken up?( good vs ratio 1:4)
4)is my job link with my study or was the salary able to support the fee?(good vs bad ratio 1:5)
to be continue...
When i was in my national service time, i was quite naive in thinking that hardwork will somehow work out for me in the world outside. However that is not true, it is how smart you work and what kind of work you are working in. Getting to know that comes from all the trail and error in picking up all kinds of jobs along my ways.
What kind of trail and error? It more of error in my thinking than my ways
I used to think that by working a low paid job (700 - 1200 per month) will be enough for me, as i will save up a lot to cover back and in the long run, success in life with my saving. To be flank, that kind of thinking is wrong, wrong and damn WRONG. (i will slap my old self in the head if i am standing in front of him) . The reason for this is because expense will get high as time comes.Unexpected happening will occur. i need to add all these up and find a salary that can need all this things that comes my ways.
After knowing this, i was half way to the right path. (Noted, i was "half way to the right path") I began searching for means that can need that requirement. I began to take up degree course(despite i don't have that much cash to meet pay the whole thing), with the rationalise of getting ahead in a job with the highest paid so i don't have to suffer so much. I took up a part time job, thinking it will pay for my studies. so i WAS very sure i am "smart" and going on with my plan.
I was very wrong.(see another bang on the wall) my plan was good, but i didn't plan for the worst outcome. In every plan, there must be a worst case scenario in it. Mine didn't have it.
The good about my plan was that, i able to work as a psychologist with a very high paid
( good vs bad ratio 1:0)
the bad thing which i avoid thinking or avoid finding the solution for it and just drive in was :
1)In what degree or percentage was the Cerf recognise? ( good vs bad ratio 1:1)
2)Was my money management logical? in term of saving, expense and paying for my school fee?
(good vs bad ratio 1:2)
3)how deep is my research on this line on psychologist and the school that i taken up?( good vs ratio 1:4)
4)is my job link with my study or was the salary able to support the fee?(good vs bad ratio 1:5)
to be continue...
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
15th april 2009( clouded)
I've once read a quote saying "believe in yourself, you know more than you think you know"
I was confuse by this quote. The reason being, we as human being need to learn from outside source such as our mistakes, books, school, people around us.
What is the rationalise behind "you know more than you think you know"?
After having a bad month of being piss off by a series of situation, i began to get in touch with my emotional side. When I'm relax and clear minded, things looks very easy. However, when i in a situation when fear and anger consume me, things no longer looks as easy as it is, even though it is just a simple task.
Sometime when we are right, people tend to talk us down by using our emotion. Making us feel that we are wrong, but in fact we are more than right.
Emotion clouded us of our judgement, letting us do things that we aren't suppose to do.
A clouded mind makes a wrong judgement right, and a right judgement wrong.
During my off day when i got time to read the strait times. I came across an article on yoga. It written that once a mind is disrupted the person will have very short series of breath. Once a person mind is clear, focus and relax. The person will have a longer breath.
I began to observe this when i was getting stress up and anxious at work, my breath did indeed get short. Then i began to lengthen my breath, and the result is where i began to slow down my speed of handling thing, and somehow thing are much clearer.
Indeed, we must train to believe in our self. As we know much more than what we really know.
I was confuse by this quote. The reason being, we as human being need to learn from outside source such as our mistakes, books, school, people around us.
What is the rationalise behind "you know more than you think you know"?
After having a bad month of being piss off by a series of situation, i began to get in touch with my emotional side. When I'm relax and clear minded, things looks very easy. However, when i in a situation when fear and anger consume me, things no longer looks as easy as it is, even though it is just a simple task.
Sometime when we are right, people tend to talk us down by using our emotion. Making us feel that we are wrong, but in fact we are more than right.
Emotion clouded us of our judgement, letting us do things that we aren't suppose to do.
A clouded mind makes a wrong judgement right, and a right judgement wrong.
During my off day when i got time to read the strait times. I came across an article on yoga. It written that once a mind is disrupted the person will have very short series of breath. Once a person mind is clear, focus and relax. The person will have a longer breath.
I began to observe this when i was getting stress up and anxious at work, my breath did indeed get short. Then i began to lengthen my breath, and the result is where i began to slow down my speed of handling thing, and somehow thing are much clearer.
Indeed, we must train to believe in our self. As we know much more than what we really know.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
13th april 2009 (confront)
"You like to run away or avoid solving the problem".
We had many words throw to us in a day, only a few will hit us. That day, this sentence hit me hard.
I began to question myself about the way i handle thing. Does i find a temporary solution or do i find another way to go around it instead of solving it head on?
it a matter of case by case basis.
I no longer ask people to give me opinion of how to change for the better. To me, it better to be scolded or lecturer out of anger and out of good faith of the other party rather than volunteer to be advise.
I learn this the hard way. if one is to ask another person on advise to improve oneself, the person is like handing his life to another person. if that person has an interior motive.
We had many words throw to us in a day, only a few will hit us. That day, this sentence hit me hard.
I began to question myself about the way i handle thing. Does i find a temporary solution or do i find another way to go around it instead of solving it head on?
it a matter of case by case basis.
I no longer ask people to give me opinion of how to change for the better. To me, it better to be scolded or lecturer out of anger and out of good faith of the other party rather than volunteer to be advise.
I learn this the hard way. if one is to ask another person on advise to improve oneself, the person is like handing his life to another person. if that person has an interior motive.
12th April 2009 (blue sky)
I stared at the sky. It is blue. It is peaceful.
Below the sky, people are busy minding their own business. The sky remain still.
Sometime the sky is filled with clouds, but it still feel peaceful when one is looking at it.
Below the sky, people are arguing and children are crying. The sky remain still.
Sometime the sky is clear and all we can see is the bright shinning sun.
Below the sky, endless flow of vehicle passing under it. unfortunate happening sometime will happen and blood can be seen, the related one will be seen weeping. The sky remain still.
Emotional run high for some.
Couple seems to lose track of time in the moment of their own.
A Man seen staring down with pending of thought in his mind.
Young yuppies stare at the computer screen for hours.
Devotee seen praying quieting.
People laughing at each other.
The poor raise her hand to beg for money.
Best friend sitting at a cafe having a good time.
Man sleeping on at the floor.
Woman chatting on the phone while crossing the street.
A teen is busy study the subject from his book on the table.
A girl seems to be sad but hold back her tears as she walk through the streets.
I.. walked through the street on a peaceful afternoon. I had spotted them and wrote them down.
No matter what we did, it doesn't seems to disturb the peace of the sky. The sky doesn't change even we shout at it.
Below the sky, people are busy minding their own business. The sky remain still.
Sometime the sky is filled with clouds, but it still feel peaceful when one is looking at it.
Below the sky, people are arguing and children are crying. The sky remain still.
Sometime the sky is clear and all we can see is the bright shinning sun.
Below the sky, endless flow of vehicle passing under it. unfortunate happening sometime will happen and blood can be seen, the related one will be seen weeping. The sky remain still.
Emotional run high for some.
Couple seems to lose track of time in the moment of their own.
A Man seen staring down with pending of thought in his mind.
Young yuppies stare at the computer screen for hours.
Devotee seen praying quieting.
People laughing at each other.
The poor raise her hand to beg for money.
Best friend sitting at a cafe having a good time.
Man sleeping on at the floor.
Woman chatting on the phone while crossing the street.
A teen is busy study the subject from his book on the table.
A girl seems to be sad but hold back her tears as she walk through the streets.
I.. walked through the street on a peaceful afternoon. I had spotted them and wrote them down.
No matter what we did, it doesn't seems to disturb the peace of the sky. The sky doesn't change even we shout at it.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
7th April 2009 (understood)
Spirit versus flesh.
We heard that all the time. It's a common phase use when you are in a pursue to any spiritual journey.
However, just what is the different between the spirit and the flesh?
The flesh is weak, it crave for lust, greed.In the bottom line, it is a reactive force on whatever happen surrounding it.
The spirit is the opposite of what the flesh is. It is a force that is proactive on whatever happen surrounding it.
In order for the spirit to flourish, the flesh has to suffer. In order for the flesh to flourish, the spirit has to die or be ignore.
Both is an equally strong force.
Learn to be good takes three years, learn to be bad takes 3 days. It easier to destroy than to build.
The flesh can help strengthen the spirit through resist of temptation.
The spirit can be flourish by meditation, reading, praying, resisting, retreat, training.
Once a person fall into temptation, it hard to put in on track into the spiritual journey
We heard that all the time. It's a common phase use when you are in a pursue to any spiritual journey.
However, just what is the different between the spirit and the flesh?
The flesh is weak, it crave for lust, greed.In the bottom line, it is a reactive force on whatever happen surrounding it.
The spirit is the opposite of what the flesh is. It is a force that is proactive on whatever happen surrounding it.
In order for the spirit to flourish, the flesh has to suffer. In order for the flesh to flourish, the spirit has to die or be ignore.
Both is an equally strong force.
Learn to be good takes three years, learn to be bad takes 3 days. It easier to destroy than to build.
The flesh can help strengthen the spirit through resist of temptation.
The spirit can be flourish by meditation, reading, praying, resisting, retreat, training.
Once a person fall into temptation, it hard to put in on track into the spiritual journey
Sunday, April 5, 2009
5th April 2009 (long term vs short term)
I a "random thinking" kind of guy. I would all the sudden think of a question and go find out about it.
During my ITE days when i was idling around with my buddies at the shopping mall, i suddenly raise a question to my friend "How did the bank get the money to start up?"
"Aiyah, they just tell people to deposit money into their bank for interest rate and safely. With those money the client deposit, they use it to start out. It a game of gamble. If it didn't work out well the bank will just close down." he replied
I loved the ITE days, it's a time when my mind was filled with expectation. I don't know about youngster now, but people at my time was filled with expectation for the coming future.
In my quest to know more about financial stuff (before some financial "guru" deceived me of my hard earn money) I learned of things deeper than that.
There are two kind of investment, one is called "long term" another is called "short term".
For long term investment, you will heard something similar to this
"If you put money in your bank , you only get 0.02 interest rate per annual. However, if you put money in the plan that i going to introduce to you. it will get you a return of 4 to 5 per cent of interest rate per annual. In ten years you will get more return than what your bank will offer."
let's start from long term investment. it not actually "long term". It is long term for the client but short term for the company selling the product. let's be logic, a bank or any financial company need loan to start up. They need to made profit. They need to know how to get money fast, and the only way is through short term investment. The so called safe investment actually move with the market.
However, long term investment is needed. It is a back up source. A monthly input of money into a financial plan is a smart move. For my opinion, once the ten to five years is over ,the money should be put to short term investment instead of continue the plan.
What is short term investment? It is what you called "risky investment"
These are the list of short term investment
Stocks,for ex,future, options, real estate. (there are more) i like to called them financial tools.
The return is not monthly or yearly. it is daily.
There are investor called "big boys" known as those rice guys or bankers, and there are investor called the "small boys also known as retail investor or leverage investor.
During my ITE days when i was idling around with my buddies at the shopping mall, i suddenly raise a question to my friend "How did the bank get the money to start up?"
"Aiyah, they just tell people to deposit money into their bank for interest rate and safely. With those money the client deposit, they use it to start out. It a game of gamble. If it didn't work out well the bank will just close down." he replied
I loved the ITE days, it's a time when my mind was filled with expectation. I don't know about youngster now, but people at my time was filled with expectation for the coming future.
In my quest to know more about financial stuff (before some financial "guru" deceived me of my hard earn money) I learned of things deeper than that.
There are two kind of investment, one is called "long term" another is called "short term".
For long term investment, you will heard something similar to this
"If you put money in your bank , you only get 0.02 interest rate per annual. However, if you put money in the plan that i going to introduce to you. it will get you a return of 4 to 5 per cent of interest rate per annual. In ten years you will get more return than what your bank will offer."
let's start from long term investment. it not actually "long term". It is long term for the client but short term for the company selling the product. let's be logic, a bank or any financial company need loan to start up. They need to made profit. They need to know how to get money fast, and the only way is through short term investment. The so called safe investment actually move with the market.
However, long term investment is needed. It is a back up source. A monthly input of money into a financial plan is a smart move. For my opinion, once the ten to five years is over ,the money should be put to short term investment instead of continue the plan.
What is short term investment? It is what you called "risky investment"
These are the list of short term investment
Stocks,for ex,future, options, real estate. (there are more) i like to called them financial tools.
The return is not monthly or yearly. it is daily.
There are investor called "big boys" known as those rice guys or bankers, and there are investor called the "small boys also known as retail investor or leverage investor.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
25th march 2009( Mary )
There is a woman. Greatly praise by both catholic and Muslim. The perfect woman of God. Her name is Mary. The mother of Jesus. The holy virgin. She live out the word written by king Solomon of a great godly woman.
After experience all the bad, the good and the weird about woman, i begin to ask myself who is the great example of a woman? As i can find none so far. I can only think of Mary. (Just as woman think of Our lord as the great example of man)
She accept God request to give birth to Christ without hesitation. Remain godly and a virgin all through her life.
In a time where moral and politic crash. People done immorally thing and use excuse to hide it for moral reason which create a complex society. And it made love even more complex.
The holy virgin Mary is humble, Godly, well manner and honest. All other that i saw is just faking it.
Where is the "Mary" in my life? can i find her before my time is over? If i found her, what is next? After all love is not just love.
After experience all the bad, the good and the weird about woman, i begin to ask myself who is the great example of a woman? As i can find none so far. I can only think of Mary. (Just as woman think of Our lord as the great example of man)
She accept God request to give birth to Christ without hesitation. Remain godly and a virgin all through her life.
In a time where moral and politic crash. People done immorally thing and use excuse to hide it for moral reason which create a complex society. And it made love even more complex.
The holy virgin Mary is humble, Godly, well manner and honest. All other that i saw is just faking it.
Where is the "Mary" in my life? can i find her before my time is over? If i found her, what is next? After all love is not just love.
25th march 2009(moral???)
There is a trend in a recent news. That is more and more people are having sex video and picture in Singapore.
From NYP Tammy to the Singapore Edison.
It lead me to think about the comment that my friend once written in her blog which is "Singaporean guys only think about sex"
True to the fact from what i know is guy is more lustful than girls. This is the what i know from the time i was young.
However the question i want to ask is that since the girls are the willing party in the sex video and scandal,are Singapore guy the only one who only think about sex? or are guy suppose to made the first move in term of sexual request that made us the bad guys?"
Does that made the girls and the guys equal in term of their lust toward sex?
If the girls in the Edison sex video saga doesn't have to face a risk of losing their job will they come out and say "sorry"?
For the "Singapore Edison" saga aren't the girls willing also? It made me think that there is no such thing as morally upright, everything is upside down. Whatever things a guy can do, a girl can equally do. How lustful a guy is, a girl can be equally lustful.
whether they are Singaporean Chinese girl or foreign woman, to me they are all just human being, with the same weakness. There is no longer a thing call high class or low class in my heart. it the action and the intention in their heart that matter. whether they got degree or uneducated to me it made no difference.
From NYP Tammy to the Singapore Edison.
It lead me to think about the comment that my friend once written in her blog which is "Singaporean guys only think about sex"
True to the fact from what i know is guy is more lustful than girls. This is the what i know from the time i was young.
However the question i want to ask is that since the girls are the willing party in the sex video and scandal,are Singapore guy the only one who only think about sex? or are guy suppose to made the first move in term of sexual request that made us the bad guys?"
Does that made the girls and the guys equal in term of their lust toward sex?
If the girls in the Edison sex video saga doesn't have to face a risk of losing their job will they come out and say "sorry"?
For the "Singapore Edison" saga aren't the girls willing also? It made me think that there is no such thing as morally upright, everything is upside down. Whatever things a guy can do, a girl can equally do. How lustful a guy is, a girl can be equally lustful.
whether they are Singaporean Chinese girl or foreign woman, to me they are all just human being, with the same weakness. There is no longer a thing call high class or low class in my heart. it the action and the intention in their heart that matter. whether they got degree or uneducated to me it made no difference.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
24th march 2009 (direction)
Once upon time there was a village in a valley.
People life is simple, the village is governed by a village head and the villager live by the resources surrounding it. Such as Live stocks, vegetable farm and a reservoir filled with fresh water.
One day, the village chief announce to the villager that the village's water source will soon come to the end. The village head want to hire people to fetch water from the near by mountain to refill the water source and for each bucket of water fetch back from the mountain will be rewarded with 2 gold pieces.
That time only two guys are available for this job, the name of these two guys are called Dan and Roy.
Roy is well build and strong in physical strength
Dan on the other hand is quite slim in build and also have quite an average in physical strength.
Together they trade in their time to fetch water from the mountain back to the village. As time went pass, both of them are quite well doing. Roy is having a good time with the money he earn.Dan on the other hand save up what had he earned.
One day Dan got injured, he has slow down in term of speed when it come to fetching the water back to village.
Dan got stress about his work and his future, as he might lose he income when his injury get worst. He began to think about a solution to his problem.
One day he come out with an idea of building a pipeline to fetch water effortlessly from the mountain to the village. He told this idea to Roy to help him in constructing the pipeline. However, Roy laughed at him and told him not to dream.
Dan give up fetching water with the bucket and begin to plan and build his pipeline with the amount of saving he has. Time went by, Roy laughed at him as Dan is spending way too much money on thing he can't see. Roy continue to enjoy his money from the job which he is having.
After two years and all the money gone, Dan manage to finish the pipeline and redirect the water to a pond behind his house. he supplied the water by the amount that the village head demands.His source of income increase steady everyday. Dan became rich and use the extra money to hire worker to build pipeline in other village. Now Dan don't have to work, his income comes passively.
Roy heard this news, got angry and spend all his time fetching more and more water, however there is a limit to his strength. He got tired and fall sick, the money he earn goes to the doctor who is giving him the treatment
This is the story of Passive income. the finale of financial freedom.
*Passive income will only come to you through self revelation, do not believe in other when they offer a passive income to you, there is always a catch.
People life is simple, the village is governed by a village head and the villager live by the resources surrounding it. Such as Live stocks, vegetable farm and a reservoir filled with fresh water.
One day, the village chief announce to the villager that the village's water source will soon come to the end. The village head want to hire people to fetch water from the near by mountain to refill the water source and for each bucket of water fetch back from the mountain will be rewarded with 2 gold pieces.
That time only two guys are available for this job, the name of these two guys are called Dan and Roy.
Roy is well build and strong in physical strength
Dan on the other hand is quite slim in build and also have quite an average in physical strength.
Together they trade in their time to fetch water from the mountain back to the village. As time went pass, both of them are quite well doing. Roy is having a good time with the money he earn.Dan on the other hand save up what had he earned.
One day Dan got injured, he has slow down in term of speed when it come to fetching the water back to village.
Dan got stress about his work and his future, as he might lose he income when his injury get worst. He began to think about a solution to his problem.
One day he come out with an idea of building a pipeline to fetch water effortlessly from the mountain to the village. He told this idea to Roy to help him in constructing the pipeline. However, Roy laughed at him and told him not to dream.
Dan give up fetching water with the bucket and begin to plan and build his pipeline with the amount of saving he has. Time went by, Roy laughed at him as Dan is spending way too much money on thing he can't see. Roy continue to enjoy his money from the job which he is having.
After two years and all the money gone, Dan manage to finish the pipeline and redirect the water to a pond behind his house. he supplied the water by the amount that the village head demands.His source of income increase steady everyday. Dan became rich and use the extra money to hire worker to build pipeline in other village. Now Dan don't have to work, his income comes passively.
Roy heard this news, got angry and spend all his time fetching more and more water, however there is a limit to his strength. He got tired and fall sick, the money he earn goes to the doctor who is giving him the treatment
This is the story of Passive income. the finale of financial freedom.
*Passive income will only come to you through self revelation, do not believe in other when they offer a passive income to you, there is always a catch.
Saturday, March 14, 2009
14th march 2009 ( )
On a daily basis, if you ask me what i worry about, i will tell you i will be worry about Money,Job, reputation, studies, relationship and Health.
If you suddenly ask me what i think about death, all the sudden my worries seems to be unrealistic. I will say that relationship and being alive are the main thing in life, and i will tell even if you have one friend with you and he or she is willing to spend his or her time to laugh and enjoy with you, that is the greatest blessing. And money seems to be unimportant.
If we are can live forever, time will be meaningless. That is also the main reason why the bible said that God is patience in forgiving.He live forever, time is nothing to him.
We rush to complete things. We rush to live life to the fullest. We are constantly busy because we want to forget the fact that we can anytime leave this world.
"People worship God because they scare of death."
That is not true, People are not scare of death. People are scare to die before knowing their purpose of living. In religion, people found wisdom in understand their purpose of living.
Purpose is the main reason for living.
Do the things you enjoy, because life is too short to do the thing you dislike.
I found out that making full use of time we have in volunteering to do thing make life more interesting. (The Yes man)
I once attended a wake of my ex church member's grandmother about two years ago. Before she passed away, i went to visit her and spoken to her when she is lying on her hospital bed. she was alive and and moving. At the wake, i saw the same lady lying in the coffin. No matter how hard i stare at her, she didn't move at all. There is no life in the body.
Those who went with me to the wake just pay their respect and left, some stay and chat.
While the i was feeling uneasy as the word keep repeat itself in my mind "She is not moving, there is no life.There used to be, i talked to her before."
The definition of life i have from there on, is something i cannot use word to describe. It has add more value to my life.
If you suddenly ask me what i think about death, all the sudden my worries seems to be unrealistic. I will say that relationship and being alive are the main thing in life, and i will tell even if you have one friend with you and he or she is willing to spend his or her time to laugh and enjoy with you, that is the greatest blessing. And money seems to be unimportant.
If we are can live forever, time will be meaningless. That is also the main reason why the bible said that God is patience in forgiving.He live forever, time is nothing to him.
We rush to complete things. We rush to live life to the fullest. We are constantly busy because we want to forget the fact that we can anytime leave this world.
"People worship God because they scare of death."
That is not true, People are not scare of death. People are scare to die before knowing their purpose of living. In religion, people found wisdom in understand their purpose of living.
Purpose is the main reason for living.
Do the things you enjoy, because life is too short to do the thing you dislike.
I found out that making full use of time we have in volunteering to do thing make life more interesting. (The Yes man)
I once attended a wake of my ex church member's grandmother about two years ago. Before she passed away, i went to visit her and spoken to her when she is lying on her hospital bed. she was alive and and moving. At the wake, i saw the same lady lying in the coffin. No matter how hard i stare at her, she didn't move at all. There is no life in the body.
Those who went with me to the wake just pay their respect and left, some stay and chat.
While the i was feeling uneasy as the word keep repeat itself in my mind "She is not moving, there is no life.There used to be, i talked to her before."
The definition of life i have from there on, is something i cannot use word to describe. It has add more value to my life.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
13th march 2009 ( "Normals" )
There is a common trait in people you found at Schools,workplace, national service and shopping malls.
It is the "walls" that you need to break in order for them to be your friend. The word for this is call "ice-breaking". People all have their own level of privacy.
For a person to be your friend, the first 90 second of impression is the last impression any person is going to leave.
Second barrier we need to break is the bio-status of the person.It is still at a very formal stage, where exchange of simple information like age, working status, relationship status, family sibling and hobbies take places.
The third stages, is at a more closer stage where people share their emotion and problem with each other. Normally when both friend are of opposite gender reach this stage they might become attracted.This is also the "honeymoon period' for couple.
The fourth stage, is the last stage.Where all the flaw and hurt are being endure by each other.normally, when friends reaches this state they are either separated or stay as good friends. A great deal of understanding is needed at this stage.
This is normal.
However, let think out of the box for a moment. Let's say i know that it is hard to form a friendship in the real world. i create a world where breaking-ice is simple. Because once i win a trust from a friend, it is easy to request things from them.As well as using our friendship as a bait to get what i want.
i create a world where people are all supportive, friendly and willing listens. Ice-breaking is very simple.Or should i say these people will help you break the ice. They are beautiful people which break the ice for you.
I will tell this group of people the reason to be nice is a strength and teaches them that once a person grab hold of another person heart, Guilt and hurtful words will be a weapon. The best part is that no evidence will be found.That person will be train to throw away his or her logic skill when listening to a nice and gentle speaker because he or she don't want to be outcast.
They will reason thing base on the logic that i want them to reason in.Because in my world, people don't have to face the hardship of making friends or even feeling rejected. In this world that i created, everybody is friend and family.And i want them to teaches this logic to the friend around them. Those who refuse to listen are advice to break off their friendship with them.
Imagination time is over, now back to the topic.
Sound scary? sound like some cult? What evil or sick mind was i thinking? Or is it what i wrote was actually happening in the real world?
Before my blog get flame by supporter of any organisation, i not going to say any names.
However, this is a guideline. Nothing in this world is easy. Even making friends.
If a place is full of friendly people that tell you to relax, my advice is do not throw away common sense or logic.
I not saying about religious group as from my experience, making friend still take the "normal road" in religious group which made them normal and safe.
Common sense is not so common. If it common, i won't be writing my experience......
It is the "walls" that you need to break in order for them to be your friend. The word for this is call "ice-breaking". People all have their own level of privacy.
For a person to be your friend, the first 90 second of impression is the last impression any person is going to leave.
Second barrier we need to break is the bio-status of the person.It is still at a very formal stage, where exchange of simple information like age, working status, relationship status, family sibling and hobbies take places.
The third stages, is at a more closer stage where people share their emotion and problem with each other. Normally when both friend are of opposite gender reach this stage they might become attracted.This is also the "honeymoon period' for couple.
The fourth stage, is the last stage.Where all the flaw and hurt are being endure by each other.normally, when friends reaches this state they are either separated or stay as good friends. A great deal of understanding is needed at this stage.
This is normal.
However, let think out of the box for a moment. Let's say i know that it is hard to form a friendship in the real world. i create a world where breaking-ice is simple. Because once i win a trust from a friend, it is easy to request things from them.As well as using our friendship as a bait to get what i want.
i create a world where people are all supportive, friendly and willing listens. Ice-breaking is very simple.Or should i say these people will help you break the ice. They are beautiful people which break the ice for you.
I will tell this group of people the reason to be nice is a strength and teaches them that once a person grab hold of another person heart, Guilt and hurtful words will be a weapon. The best part is that no evidence will be found.That person will be train to throw away his or her logic skill when listening to a nice and gentle speaker because he or she don't want to be outcast.
They will reason thing base on the logic that i want them to reason in.Because in my world, people don't have to face the hardship of making friends or even feeling rejected. In this world that i created, everybody is friend and family.And i want them to teaches this logic to the friend around them. Those who refuse to listen are advice to break off their friendship with them.
Imagination time is over, now back to the topic.
Sound scary? sound like some cult? What evil or sick mind was i thinking? Or is it what i wrote was actually happening in the real world?
Before my blog get flame by supporter of any organisation, i not going to say any names.
However, this is a guideline. Nothing in this world is easy. Even making friends.
If a place is full of friendly people that tell you to relax, my advice is do not throw away common sense or logic.
I not saying about religious group as from my experience, making friend still take the "normal road" in religious group which made them normal and safe.
Common sense is not so common. If it common, i won't be writing my experience......
13th march 2009 ( choices)
During the previous year, i had been fickle minded about my goal and my focus. Because of this trait which lead me to achieving nothing. Even with careful planning, a fickle mind will not lead me to any destination.
I decided to put my effort on patience, focus and planning. It turn out pretty well.
However, even that is the case, i am still human. My flaw begin to mirror to myself as time passes. I beginning to become impatience. In my heart, i wanted to achieve thing in a faster and greater pace by taking on more thing that i can handle. I was tempted by the words such as "shorter time", "excuses" and "faster way".
My experience with these three word has not been a good one. In my logical mind i knew one principal which never fade in me. There is no shortcut, and there is no such thing as a faster way. Just as the bible wrote; "the pathway to hell is a high way, while the path to heaven is a narrow gate only few will find it"
Yes, in work there is always way to find shortcut. It takes hard work and experience for those people working longer before me to provide that shortcut to finish that task.In the end, there is no shortcut.
Only the devil will offer shortcut, and so far i had experience nothing but lies and emptiness in those so call short cut method. And yes, the devil is call "the father of all lies"
Only God offer a longer and painful path which lead to life.(i will not discuss about it here)
What does the above topic that i wrote link about topic regarding choices? Don't get me wrong, i haven't wrote out of the content yet. i still within it.
"There will be a time, when one must make a choice"
Let me repeat my principal which i had learned to reach a goal, it is patience, focus and planning.
However, if one is standing in the cross junction of choices where he need to give up certain thing in order to prioritize his goal. Questions such as these will appear in that person mind;
"which one must i give up?"
"i can't take on all this goal i wanted to achieve, as time, focus, attention and money are needed"
"if i take on all the goal that i wanted to achieve, possibility is the skill level of individual field is not enough for me to reach the next level as time is needed in term of trait and error."
"If i focus all my attention on achieving so less, what if i die tomorrow?"
Every stool need three poles to stand if two are remove, the stool cannot stand. If the question and the temptation to achieve more in less time will take away patience and focus, leaving only planning.
Remember where we are now, is the result of the choices we made in the past. Those thing in front of our eye is either an opportunity or a trap.
Both are learning experiences.(salesman love this sentence, if it from their mouth i take it as crap)
i made two choice for myself to chose
1. chose to achieve all the choices, but i need to only focus and complete one first before moving on to the next.
2.Give up certain thing to totally focus on one goal that is top priority.
I decided to put my effort on patience, focus and planning. It turn out pretty well.
However, even that is the case, i am still human. My flaw begin to mirror to myself as time passes. I beginning to become impatience. In my heart, i wanted to achieve thing in a faster and greater pace by taking on more thing that i can handle. I was tempted by the words such as "shorter time", "excuses" and "faster way".
My experience with these three word has not been a good one. In my logical mind i knew one principal which never fade in me. There is no shortcut, and there is no such thing as a faster way. Just as the bible wrote; "the pathway to hell is a high way, while the path to heaven is a narrow gate only few will find it"
Yes, in work there is always way to find shortcut. It takes hard work and experience for those people working longer before me to provide that shortcut to finish that task.In the end, there is no shortcut.
Only the devil will offer shortcut, and so far i had experience nothing but lies and emptiness in those so call short cut method. And yes, the devil is call "the father of all lies"
Only God offer a longer and painful path which lead to life.(i will not discuss about it here)
What does the above topic that i wrote link about topic regarding choices? Don't get me wrong, i haven't wrote out of the content yet. i still within it.
"There will be a time, when one must make a choice"
Let me repeat my principal which i had learned to reach a goal, it is patience, focus and planning.
However, if one is standing in the cross junction of choices where he need to give up certain thing in order to prioritize his goal. Questions such as these will appear in that person mind;
"which one must i give up?"
"i can't take on all this goal i wanted to achieve, as time, focus, attention and money are needed"
"if i take on all the goal that i wanted to achieve, possibility is the skill level of individual field is not enough for me to reach the next level as time is needed in term of trait and error."
"If i focus all my attention on achieving so less, what if i die tomorrow?"
Every stool need three poles to stand if two are remove, the stool cannot stand. If the question and the temptation to achieve more in less time will take away patience and focus, leaving only planning.
Remember where we are now, is the result of the choices we made in the past. Those thing in front of our eye is either an opportunity or a trap.
Both are learning experiences.(salesman love this sentence, if it from their mouth i take it as crap)
i made two choice for myself to chose
1. chose to achieve all the choices, but i need to only focus and complete one first before moving on to the next.
2.Give up certain thing to totally focus on one goal that is top priority.
Saturday, March 7, 2009
8th march 2009(Lust vs love)
I once read a comment on a forum which wrote " Nowadays youngster are confuse between love and lust"
I begin to question myself whether i part of it?
To begin with, if i would to fall in love with a woman what will i look out for?
1.Looks. She need to be pretty or cute either one will do.
2.A good personality, one that can share my problem with and also one that i can click with.
3. An average figure.
The answer that i have for myself is that i pretty much close to that "confuse" group.
What is love?
To be love is:
1) when i made a terrible mistake and my dad says "all human mad es mistakes you are only human don't think too much about it"
2)When i made a confession to my mum and she said "it okie , don't do it again"
3)when my prayer is answer.
4)when friends don't demand much from each other and just enjoy each other company.
5)when i tell myself "it okie, everything is to be fine"
What is lust?
it is a craving of the body. Body that is an eye candy.
I once asked a friend about how she chose her potential boyfriend. She told me that her potential boyfriend need to be caring, loving, gentle. without good look is fine, as long as he is average looking.
Then when i asked her again about why she didn't chose xxx who declare his love to her, she just said " oh my god, he is just an average Joe which don't even have money, my taste goes for handsome hunk"
To be with someone that is good looking is hard
To be with someone who willing to give that genuine love is not only difficult but it require us to take a look in our own heart.
I begin to question myself whether i part of it?
To begin with, if i would to fall in love with a woman what will i look out for?
1.Looks. She need to be pretty or cute either one will do.
2.A good personality, one that can share my problem with and also one that i can click with.
3. An average figure.
The answer that i have for myself is that i pretty much close to that "confuse" group.
What is love?
To be love is:
1) when i made a terrible mistake and my dad says "all human mad es mistakes you are only human don't think too much about it"
2)When i made a confession to my mum and she said "it okie , don't do it again"
3)when my prayer is answer.
4)when friends don't demand much from each other and just enjoy each other company.
5)when i tell myself "it okie, everything is to be fine"
What is lust?
it is a craving of the body. Body that is an eye candy.
I once asked a friend about how she chose her potential boyfriend. She told me that her potential boyfriend need to be caring, loving, gentle. without good look is fine, as long as he is average looking.
Then when i asked her again about why she didn't chose xxx who declare his love to her, she just said " oh my god, he is just an average Joe which don't even have money, my taste goes for handsome hunk"
To be with someone that is good looking is hard
To be with someone who willing to give that genuine love is not only difficult but it require us to take a look in our own heart.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
25th feb 2009( side quest)
- tution
I saw in the bulletin, after mass, that a ministry is looking for tutor. To be flank, i got no experience in teaching people, but i want to made my time useful and there is no harm trying.
i invited two of my friend to join me in teaching the kids. These two friends of mine look more like a tutor than me. I look more like a biker than a gentle teacher.
One of them accepted my invitation, and fall in love with teaching the kid. i also have my share of joy while teaching the kid assigned to me.
I learned that teaching is about letting the student know the concept, it about using the concept that i had learned to anaylise the question rather than just memorise and trying their luck. interacting with the kid is also very important. even though it is being a tutor for free, but the joy in the heart is priceless.
-insurance
Insurance is very important. I put my trust in the insurance product but not the person pitching to me.
I was injuried and praise god that i had brought an insurance plan to cover all my bills for day surgery.
To made claim, just call the customer service officer of the plan that you brought and tell them all the detail they want. They will sent a NOG to the hospital to made the claim.
without insurance, all your hard earn money will be deleted very fast by hospital bills.
Using a insurance product also comes with experience.
-routine cum focus
Routine create a habit.
when i was nursing my wound at home. i contiune to practice my move for my sports, and to my surpise i made much improvement on my moves within two days. it about how much time you put in perfecting a skill,and not just attending it.
-heart
The old saying in holy books and teaching all says that "everything start in the heart".
actually it start in the mind first then "rooted" in the heart. that is why some religion have meditation. meditaiton is the control of thought to guard the heart.
I saw in the bulletin, after mass, that a ministry is looking for tutor. To be flank, i got no experience in teaching people, but i want to made my time useful and there is no harm trying.
i invited two of my friend to join me in teaching the kids. These two friends of mine look more like a tutor than me. I look more like a biker than a gentle teacher.
One of them accepted my invitation, and fall in love with teaching the kid. i also have my share of joy while teaching the kid assigned to me.
I learned that teaching is about letting the student know the concept, it about using the concept that i had learned to anaylise the question rather than just memorise and trying their luck. interacting with the kid is also very important. even though it is being a tutor for free, but the joy in the heart is priceless.
-insurance
Insurance is very important. I put my trust in the insurance product but not the person pitching to me.
I was injuried and praise god that i had brought an insurance plan to cover all my bills for day surgery.
To made claim, just call the customer service officer of the plan that you brought and tell them all the detail they want. They will sent a NOG to the hospital to made the claim.
without insurance, all your hard earn money will be deleted very fast by hospital bills.
Using a insurance product also comes with experience.
-routine cum focus
Routine create a habit.
when i was nursing my wound at home. i contiune to practice my move for my sports, and to my surpise i made much improvement on my moves within two days. it about how much time you put in perfecting a skill,and not just attending it.
-heart
The old saying in holy books and teaching all says that "everything start in the heart".
actually it start in the mind first then "rooted" in the heart. that is why some religion have meditation. meditaiton is the control of thought to guard the heart.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
18th feb 2009 (skill)
Skill is something that is fun at the beginning.It get boring in the middle, and it become all worth it at the end.
It like hiking up a mountain, half way to the top is cover by all the same looking trees and more trees for almost half a day.At the top is the most beautiful scenery that last only for a hour because of thirst and hunger.After hiking down from this mountain means we must hike up again to see the beautiful scenery
Sometime putting all the effort in training doesn't mean we can get the result we want. Just like a Hiker forgot to bring his camera when he reach the top.. Or half way he just want to quit and take a swim..
There also talented people who can master a skill at a very short time and those who have the passion to made his skill like an art,like those regular hiker who made walking up the mountain seems like running.
In the middle of every skill development is the boring part, it where mistake are everywhere.People and situation are stopping us.we are stopping our self.It seems that we have try everything but nothing seems to work.
Like hiking through the middle of a mountain, stamina are running out,water are finishing,team mate are arguing,people lost trust in each other,the leg can't take it anymore and accident happens after an accident.
After completing one skill, to take it to the next level mean to search for a tougher challenge.
Just like looking for a new mountain to hike...
It like hiking up a mountain, half way to the top is cover by all the same looking trees and more trees for almost half a day.At the top is the most beautiful scenery that last only for a hour because of thirst and hunger.After hiking down from this mountain means we must hike up again to see the beautiful scenery
Sometime putting all the effort in training doesn't mean we can get the result we want. Just like a Hiker forgot to bring his camera when he reach the top.. Or half way he just want to quit and take a swim..
There also talented people who can master a skill at a very short time and those who have the passion to made his skill like an art,like those regular hiker who made walking up the mountain seems like running.
In the middle of every skill development is the boring part, it where mistake are everywhere.People and situation are stopping us.we are stopping our self.It seems that we have try everything but nothing seems to work.
Like hiking through the middle of a mountain, stamina are running out,water are finishing,team mate are arguing,people lost trust in each other,the leg can't take it anymore and accident happens after an accident.
After completing one skill, to take it to the next level mean to search for a tougher challenge.
Just like looking for a new mountain to hike...
Saturday, February 7, 2009
8th feb 2008(Love...)
I used to be a romantic guy.
I am a sucker for the feel of that romantic feeling in those drama.For example;
Doing everything to please the girl
Need their demand.
Taking the girl of my dream to the sea side to catch the breeze.
sending tons of flowers to her.
I had done all that to a girl and the end result was that girl rejected me.
I not quite a "once bitten twice shy" kinda guy, so i had been doing my romantic act for those girl who i fallen in love with and none of them accepted me.
In the end, i try to get straight to the point by asking the girl without those romantic act.And i was instantly in a relationship which did;t last.
You can say that i became cold hearted toward love.
I not a kind of guy who give up on myself easily,however i knew that i can't advance anywhere in life when i just stuck to discover what is love. I had to learn this weird and fate linking thing as i work toward my goal.
I take this learning process as a side quest to understand it.
I heard,ask,read and try this stuff called love. i find that there is really no fix formula for this thing call love.
As 2008 passes by me and i had achieved what i planned. i beginning to understand what love is about....
The first type of love is called "puppy love", the most common type of love, is where two people met up and didn;t quite understand each other all they know is that they love each other.A fast and furious relationship.
the second type of love is the "bonding love". It what you called the friends to lover relationship. To be flank, i think this is called fate.It where a guy and a girl goes through thick and thin together and they form that feeling and understanding for each other.
The third type of love is called confusing love or unwilling love.
This type is either they are marry for the sake of being marry or they are together because they are lonely.Some is for the sake of boosting their egos.
I used to think that love is about how i felt, but now i realise is about how the other party felt.
And most important is about asking each other to give each other that chance to made a different in each other life.
will i able to write down my experience of a realistic love and ask if she is able to give herself this chance this 2009?
I will plan out and let the Lord decide.
I am a sucker for the feel of that romantic feeling in those drama.For example;
Doing everything to please the girl
Need their demand.
Taking the girl of my dream to the sea side to catch the breeze.
sending tons of flowers to her.
I had done all that to a girl and the end result was that girl rejected me.
I not quite a "once bitten twice shy" kinda guy, so i had been doing my romantic act for those girl who i fallen in love with and none of them accepted me.
In the end, i try to get straight to the point by asking the girl without those romantic act.And i was instantly in a relationship which did;t last.
You can say that i became cold hearted toward love.
I not a kind of guy who give up on myself easily,however i knew that i can't advance anywhere in life when i just stuck to discover what is love. I had to learn this weird and fate linking thing as i work toward my goal.
I take this learning process as a side quest to understand it.
I heard,ask,read and try this stuff called love. i find that there is really no fix formula for this thing call love.
As 2008 passes by me and i had achieved what i planned. i beginning to understand what love is about....
The first type of love is called "puppy love", the most common type of love, is where two people met up and didn;t quite understand each other all they know is that they love each other.A fast and furious relationship.
the second type of love is the "bonding love". It what you called the friends to lover relationship. To be flank, i think this is called fate.It where a guy and a girl goes through thick and thin together and they form that feeling and understanding for each other.
The third type of love is called confusing love or unwilling love.
This type is either they are marry for the sake of being marry or they are together because they are lonely.Some is for the sake of boosting their egos.
I used to think that love is about how i felt, but now i realise is about how the other party felt.
And most important is about asking each other to give each other that chance to made a different in each other life.
will i able to write down my experience of a realistic love and ask if she is able to give herself this chance this 2009?
I will plan out and let the Lord decide.
Saturday, January 31, 2009
1st feb 2009($$$$) once again
I once heard a story about a wealthy man who told a construction worker to build a four storey house without the first three level. In the end, the house which the construction worker built for the wealthy man collapse with the wealthy man inside it.
Sometime i wonder why so many people(including me) find it hard to tackle life's problem when so many of our folklore story told to us in school content so many moral behind it.
The reason why i told the story above because I'm going to BUST the bigger myth that a lot of people believe and that myth is the "rap to riches myth".
This myth are uses by a lot sale people as a tactic to convince their listener.
it true that poor people does become well doing but in a very slow,DARING,LOGIC and stable manner.
The rule of money is
"the poor will become poorer, and the rich will become richer"
This is the money grow money theory which is investment,which is by a daring and logical manner
"the poor will only become richer by learning how to manage money"
This is the theory of budget and saving which is the slow and stable manner.
i found some very interesting thing on the net. It the story of bill gates.
Everybody know the story, he is a hardworking guy who drop out of college and create his own wealth by selling his own computer operation system.
The truth in detail is, he drop out of a college called Harvard and his family funded him a computer to start his experiment on the operation system.To own a computer at the late 60's and to get into Harvard college means his parent is super rich!! source:
http://www.cracked.com/article_16989_6-inspiring-rags-riches-stories-that-are-bullshit.html
So next time if any body tell you that you can get super rich from super poor just by follow certain instruction such as buying his product, following his way, buy this house. i strongly suggest that you do your own research and own planning.
the best thing is to analysis what is the need of this "wise guy".
What about shares?
to be honest i was luckily that nobody told me that they could made 30,000 SDG in profit in a day or else i would feel like either to kill that guy or dig a hole and hide my head for even to listen to him.(Got one guy told me his friend can made 10,000 SDG a month working in refinery just by getting a uni Cerf.I wonder what the company turn over is going to be like if they are going to give their worker their AWS of 4 month when each of them earn above 2000 dollar each month. prehap telling that uni grad to manage the whole waste water treatment plant single handed would be more logic )
The more money you want to win in share mean the more money you will have pump in, the higher the input the harder it is to win back the loss compare to those who put lower input.beside you can only put in sdg 20,000 for one share. which mean you got to analysis more than three to five share just to earn that 30,000 in a day.
Profit about 4000 dollar to as low as 100 dollar a day is possible if one isn't greedy in playing this game of short term investment. i saw people losing 10,000 dollar and people winning 600 dollar a day.
Adding up the profit and loss in each of this input of money into one's pocket show that you still need at least 3 year to be every rich. if one can resist the temptation of not buying anything on loan.
Unless one is talking about total financial freedom such as passive income.Then becoming very rich is possible.
I would suggest the best place to start becoming good in managing wealth is:
1.Popular bookshop to buy book that can advise you
2.library to borrow those books
3.Attend a financial seminar, it worth every cent, some is Free!
4.Go and get a Cerf in learning how to sell finance stuff(i believe it in suntec city area) https://www.scicollege.org.sg/newsCGIBnDGIB.asp
5.Get a rich friend(not those who said they are rich)
6.If your parent is holding a low pay job and able to feed the whole family, learn from them.
7.Go to this blog http://singaporeprofit.com/ to learn about what you need.
8.Attend trading course
Get a financial planner only after you know the basic of managing wealth and knowing what you want from them.(if you don't know what you need, then they will know what they need from you)
Sometime i wonder why so many people(including me) find it hard to tackle life's problem when so many of our folklore story told to us in school content so many moral behind it.
The reason why i told the story above because I'm going to BUST the bigger myth that a lot of people believe and that myth is the "rap to riches myth".
This myth are uses by a lot sale people as a tactic to convince their listener.
it true that poor people does become well doing but in a very slow,DARING,LOGIC and stable manner.
The rule of money is
"the poor will become poorer, and the rich will become richer"
This is the money grow money theory which is investment,which is by a daring and logical manner
"the poor will only become richer by learning how to manage money"
This is the theory of budget and saving which is the slow and stable manner.
i found some very interesting thing on the net. It the story of bill gates.
Everybody know the story, he is a hardworking guy who drop out of college and create his own wealth by selling his own computer operation system.
The truth in detail is, he drop out of a college called Harvard and his family funded him a computer to start his experiment on the operation system.To own a computer at the late 60's and to get into Harvard college means his parent is super rich!! source:
http://www.cracked.com/article_16989_6-inspiring-rags-riches-stories-that-are-bullshit.html
So next time if any body tell you that you can get super rich from super poor just by follow certain instruction such as buying his product, following his way, buy this house. i strongly suggest that you do your own research and own planning.
the best thing is to analysis what is the need of this "wise guy".
What about shares?
to be honest i was luckily that nobody told me that they could made 30,000 SDG in profit in a day or else i would feel like either to kill that guy or dig a hole and hide my head for even to listen to him.(Got one guy told me his friend can made 10,000 SDG a month working in refinery just by getting a uni Cerf.I wonder what the company turn over is going to be like if they are going to give their worker their AWS of 4 month when each of them earn above 2000 dollar each month. prehap telling that uni grad to manage the whole waste water treatment plant single handed would be more logic )
The more money you want to win in share mean the more money you will have pump in, the higher the input the harder it is to win back the loss compare to those who put lower input.beside you can only put in sdg 20,000 for one share. which mean you got to analysis more than three to five share just to earn that 30,000 in a day.
Profit about 4000 dollar to as low as 100 dollar a day is possible if one isn't greedy in playing this game of short term investment. i saw people losing 10,000 dollar and people winning 600 dollar a day.
Adding up the profit and loss in each of this input of money into one's pocket show that you still need at least 3 year to be every rich. if one can resist the temptation of not buying anything on loan.
Unless one is talking about total financial freedom such as passive income.Then becoming very rich is possible.
I would suggest the best place to start becoming good in managing wealth is:
1.Popular bookshop to buy book that can advise you
2.library to borrow those books
3.Attend a financial seminar, it worth every cent, some is Free!
4.Go and get a Cerf in learning how to sell finance stuff(i believe it in suntec city area) https://www.scicollege.org.sg/newsCGIBnDGIB.asp
5.Get a rich friend(not those who said they are rich)
6.If your parent is holding a low pay job and able to feed the whole family, learn from them.
7.Go to this blog http://singaporeprofit.com/ to learn about what you need.
8.Attend trading course
Get a financial planner only after you know the basic of managing wealth and knowing what you want from them.(if you don't know what you need, then they will know what they need from you)
Friday, January 30, 2009
30th jan 2009(time) a random thoughts
Today i had watched the animation "death note" on DVD which i had brought from the CD shop.
After watching two hour of it, i had completed 12 chapter of it.(i had injury my hand, on 10 days MC, so i spent this time relax at home)
i remember when i was not so well doing, in term of salary, i used to catch "death note" on YouTube when this series was very famous.It took me 1 month to complete watching 12 chapter.
Reason behind this was because the owner of the video need at least two days to upload the video.and that time i was working as an sale assistant in popular bookstore, time wasn't on my side.
The time difference of completing the 12 chapter of "death note" animation leads me to a lot of thoughts.
i find that if a person use his time wisely, he can complete one task within a very short period of time.
it made the quote "don't count your days, but make everyday counts" sound more and more logical the more i think about the time differences.
last time when i was in wushu, my instructor loves last min work.He always idle around, telling us to train things that doesn't seems to get us anywhere. When our sifu told my instructor that he need people for performance, he would quickly rush to train us. The end results was that we looked like amateur from the rest of the club who was well prepare.
He could have use the idling time to sharpen our skills.
We didn't blame him, as the "idle spirit" was there.And i was a big dreamer that time.(7 years ago)
I had read story of great people who done great thing, they never idling but always training,planning and preparing.
Each second mean something for them.
sometime i felt guilty of idling around.
Even though i have a habit of idling, i will slowly get rid of the habit as my new year resolution.
As i continue to think about using time wisely.
i recall of myself:
- sending 20 resume in 2 weeks to land myself in a job.
-jog everyday 2 weeks before national service just to survive pre-course, when before that i can't even jog 500metre
-do 5 push up 3 times everyday just to progress to 50 push up 3 times one month before national service.
-chat up with girls who i don't know on the street( it at town area, don't get any weird idea) for 6 months just to cure my shyness.
-read 2 hours everyday just to learn how to think, 3 month before NS.
I had done all this "experiment". Time is indeed something that i need to use wisely.I just imagine that if i had used this time wisely when i was younger, i could have complete even more things.
the past is the past,what left is the present.And the only way is to continue to move on with new wisdom learned.
After watching two hour of it, i had completed 12 chapter of it.(i had injury my hand, on 10 days MC, so i spent this time relax at home)
i remember when i was not so well doing, in term of salary, i used to catch "death note" on YouTube when this series was very famous.It took me 1 month to complete watching 12 chapter.
Reason behind this was because the owner of the video need at least two days to upload the video.and that time i was working as an sale assistant in popular bookstore, time wasn't on my side.
The time difference of completing the 12 chapter of "death note" animation leads me to a lot of thoughts.
i find that if a person use his time wisely, he can complete one task within a very short period of time.
it made the quote "don't count your days, but make everyday counts" sound more and more logical the more i think about the time differences.
last time when i was in wushu, my instructor loves last min work.He always idle around, telling us to train things that doesn't seems to get us anywhere. When our sifu told my instructor that he need people for performance, he would quickly rush to train us. The end results was that we looked like amateur from the rest of the club who was well prepare.
He could have use the idling time to sharpen our skills.
We didn't blame him, as the "idle spirit" was there.And i was a big dreamer that time.(7 years ago)
I had read story of great people who done great thing, they never idling but always training,planning and preparing.
Each second mean something for them.
sometime i felt guilty of idling around.
Even though i have a habit of idling, i will slowly get rid of the habit as my new year resolution.
As i continue to think about using time wisely.
i recall of myself:
- sending 20 resume in 2 weeks to land myself in a job.
-jog everyday 2 weeks before national service just to survive pre-course, when before that i can't even jog 500metre
-do 5 push up 3 times everyday just to progress to 50 push up 3 times one month before national service.
-chat up with girls who i don't know on the street( it at town area, don't get any weird idea) for 6 months just to cure my shyness.
-read 2 hours everyday just to learn how to think, 3 month before NS.
I had done all this "experiment". Time is indeed something that i need to use wisely.I just imagine that if i had used this time wisely when i was younger, i could have complete even more things.
the past is the past,what left is the present.And the only way is to continue to move on with new wisdom learned.
Monday, January 12, 2009
13th Jan 2009(disable)
Last night i watch a documented film titled " The Human spirit".It about a putting a group of strong willed disabled people together to complete a journey across Africa.
I was totally impress by the strong will of the disable.They conquer the difficulty in their daily life and now they are doing thing that the able bodies might not able to accomplish.
There is white guy in the group who lose one of his hand in an accident.The words that he said is very uplifting.He said "When you are near to death and it seems that you are losing everything, it actually kinda give you a sense of strong confidence that you can overcome everything.Because nothing out there is worst than this.With this sense of confidence i always told myself i can do it and hate other people saying they can't do it.A lot of people are disable up there in their head. they just keep saying they can't do it."
His word hit me hard.As there are days in my past when i become very emotional over little things.And end up going no where.
I had seen rich people who are able-bodied crying over little things and create a big fuss.wasting everybody times. And very poor people instead of solving their own problem they create even more problem.
I once read in the newspaper about a girl in Singapore who had cancer.She wrote a blog about her feeling and experience during her fight against this illness.
Her blog is fill with positive words and humor.She made the best out of every bad things that the cancer had done to her.She was a happy girl till her very last breath.She had lose her fight against cancer.What live on from her, is her human spirit to smile in the face of such unfairness.
Prehap this is why most religion told us not to be too attach to the material world.As we might lose sight of the human spirit within us and become "disable".
I was totally impress by the strong will of the disable.They conquer the difficulty in their daily life and now they are doing thing that the able bodies might not able to accomplish.
There is white guy in the group who lose one of his hand in an accident.The words that he said is very uplifting.He said "When you are near to death and it seems that you are losing everything, it actually kinda give you a sense of strong confidence that you can overcome everything.Because nothing out there is worst than this.With this sense of confidence i always told myself i can do it and hate other people saying they can't do it.A lot of people are disable up there in their head. they just keep saying they can't do it."
His word hit me hard.As there are days in my past when i become very emotional over little things.And end up going no where.
I had seen rich people who are able-bodied crying over little things and create a big fuss.wasting everybody times. And very poor people instead of solving their own problem they create even more problem.
I once read in the newspaper about a girl in Singapore who had cancer.She wrote a blog about her feeling and experience during her fight against this illness.
Her blog is fill with positive words and humor.She made the best out of every bad things that the cancer had done to her.She was a happy girl till her very last breath.She had lose her fight against cancer.What live on from her, is her human spirit to smile in the face of such unfairness.
Prehap this is why most religion told us not to be too attach to the material world.As we might lose sight of the human spirit within us and become "disable".
Sunday, January 11, 2009
12th Jan 2009(A crossing over dialogue)
It was 2005, I'm was alone in my department under a semi-conductor plant.Having to complete a two men job all on my own before lunch time was a challenge.(My senior was on medical Leave) As i need to plan fast my move,doing logistic, moving chemical gas cylinder and charging them up.(My department one day only got two people working)
After completing my task and covered in sweat, i went into the control room to take a break before my lunch. i unexpectedly found a friendly engineer Sitting in the control room taking a break.
He was from Malaysia,he left his rural hometown of more than 100km at the age of 21 to the city of Singapore to find work.
I sat down on the chair and begin to chat with him.I started the topic by asking him on why he never stay in his home town to work instead of travelling so far to work.
He told me that finding job was quite hard for a Chinese there and the expense there was quite high unlike Singapore.
The Malaysian continue the conversation by telling me his story.
After he completed his basic education under a Malay base school(which mean he completely don't know how to read and write Chinese) and he left his rural hometown in johor bahru to KL for further education.
he completed his diploma in electrical engineering and beginning to find a job in Malaysian. However, being a Chinese mean job chances are given to the "first class" citizen first, he didn't give up searching. After landing his first job as an technician in Malaysia, he found that his pay is not enough to catch up with the heavy daily expense no matter how thrifty he tried.(when i went to genting, i spend around 20rm for one meal.i can spend 6 sing dollar in Singapore for one meal eating in orchard)
One day,He heard from his friend who is working in Singapore that the environment and pay is good compare to Malaysia.With nothing to lose, he rode his bike to Singapore to find job.
He worked in popular bookstore for more than a year.During that year, he rented a room in Singapore for 300 dollar a month which is a wise choices.(imagine having to ride a bike for 100km back and forth everyday, this prove that Honda bike is the best)
while working in retail line,he never give up searching for a job as an engineer because of his passion in technical stuff.
After he found a job in a semi-conductor plant as a technician.He never give up learning.Al way asking question and go for upgrading course.Within two years he become an engineer.
I was inspire by his story.before i left for the canteen, he told me that he was going to look for another big company after working another year here.
His life is hard and his boss is demanding, but he never stop smiling. which sometime put me, a person who born in a place full of opportunity, to shame.
It is time for me to walk out of the "strawberries generation"?
After completing my task and covered in sweat, i went into the control room to take a break before my lunch. i unexpectedly found a friendly engineer Sitting in the control room taking a break.
He was from Malaysia,he left his rural hometown of more than 100km at the age of 21 to the city of Singapore to find work.
I sat down on the chair and begin to chat with him.I started the topic by asking him on why he never stay in his home town to work instead of travelling so far to work.
He told me that finding job was quite hard for a Chinese there and the expense there was quite high unlike Singapore.
The Malaysian continue the conversation by telling me his story.
After he completed his basic education under a Malay base school(which mean he completely don't know how to read and write Chinese) and he left his rural hometown in johor bahru to KL for further education.
he completed his diploma in electrical engineering and beginning to find a job in Malaysian. However, being a Chinese mean job chances are given to the "first class" citizen first, he didn't give up searching. After landing his first job as an technician in Malaysia, he found that his pay is not enough to catch up with the heavy daily expense no matter how thrifty he tried.(when i went to genting, i spend around 20rm for one meal.i can spend 6 sing dollar in Singapore for one meal eating in orchard)
One day,He heard from his friend who is working in Singapore that the environment and pay is good compare to Malaysia.With nothing to lose, he rode his bike to Singapore to find job.
He worked in popular bookstore for more than a year.During that year, he rented a room in Singapore for 300 dollar a month which is a wise choices.(imagine having to ride a bike for 100km back and forth everyday, this prove that Honda bike is the best)
while working in retail line,he never give up searching for a job as an engineer because of his passion in technical stuff.
After he found a job in a semi-conductor plant as a technician.He never give up learning.Al way asking question and go for upgrading course.Within two years he become an engineer.
I was inspire by his story.before i left for the canteen, he told me that he was going to look for another big company after working another year here.
His life is hard and his boss is demanding, but he never stop smiling. which sometime put me, a person who born in a place full of opportunity, to shame.
It is time for me to walk out of the "strawberries generation"?
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